BEST IDEA EVER!!
I’ve always had a knack for carelessly jumping head-first into whatever grand idea I thought was The Best Idea Ever at any given time. I would chalk this up to the poor decision making abilities that come with my bipolar, but this goes way back into childhood. I broke my arm when I was super young, during preschool years, because I absolutely NEEDED to “couch dance.” This was dancing not just on the couch cushions where one sits, but also the backrest of the couch which is completely ill-advised for a small child. I was told not to, I didn’t listen, I had an AMAZING time doing it, until – the THUD of my tiny frame came crashing to the ground behind the couch. The fun was over. At least until the cast was off.
I’ve never much thought about my ability (or disability, depending on how you view it) to make decisions with my gut and go for them full steam ahead without much consideration until recently. Being a new member of Toastmasters, I gave my Icebreaker Speech late last year in which I chronicled my “inventive” and “entrepreneurial” spirit throughout my development into adulthood (I went with the fact that I spell my name Jessie with an “ie”). One of the members commented afterward that she wished she had approached her life like I did when she was growing up. I didn’t know what she meant because to me, I kind of seem like a hot mess looking back, but she explained that she appreciates my “why not?” attitude about everything.
Yeah, WHY NOT?
The woman had an excellent point. I’ve accomplished a lot of random little victories in my life because I’ve looked at most things with that “why not?” outlook. Opportunities came up and with little thought I embraced them wholeheartedly and let them play out. There are times in life when caution is advisable and 100% appropriate, but with a lot of the non-essential stuff, stuff that your heart just whispers to you “Hey, this might be kind of neat to try” why would you stop yourself? Thanks to my whim-following heart I’ve hosted a radio show in college, been involved in roller derby for 9 years, was the social chair of my sorority, told multiple people I thought they were cute/I liked them (I would say it was a 50/50 ROI on that, I’m way better with rejection than I am with “waiting to see if they make the first move”), moved to Denver, acted in sketch comedy skits, and opened multiple Etsy shops. These were not things that I thought through. The idea came to me, or just presented itself all up in my face, and I embraced it. Some of those ventures failed, some happened and were fun, and some changed the course of my life (I guess all did technically).
I’m sure we’ve all seen those articles on our social media feeds that list the “Top 30 Things You Regret not Doing when You’re 70” or whatever, and every single one emphasizes that you wind up regretting the things that you DIDN’T do. Here is a list of things that I believe you can go ahead and DO, just leap before looking!
Cut your hair, audition for a play, apply for that promotion, SING KARAOKE, ask the cute person across the way to dance, say yes when your friend invites you to try something new, explore that hobby you’ve always been interested in, start saving for that big trip you’ve always wanted to take, just go take that little weekend trip already, try out for the sports team, join an adult recreational sports team, START BLOGGING, raise your hand excitedly the next time you hear “Can I have a volunteer from the audience?”, dance – even if no one else is, go back to school, volunteer your time, write a book, or join a new group a little outside of your comfort zone.
Ok, take a peek over the edge real quick, but then leap!
And now, the things that perhaps you should take some time to consider before acting on (because I definitely have one tattoo that I did NOT look into before leaping).
Adopt a fur child, get a tattoo, change careers, move to a new city/state/country, actually go on that big trip you’ve always wanted to take, pop the “big question”, start a business, or go in to the boss person and ask for that raise at work.
You do You
Most importantly, you do you. Speak and act your heart’s truth. The last thing you want is to go through life regretting chances you didn’t take or the bad choices you did make. If your gut says “LEAP! NOW!”, maybe tell your best friend first and see if they offer a parachute or downright refuse to let you get in the airplane – then weigh their input and act accordingly. Life is way too short to wonder “What if?”