I’m writing this brief little post from my aisle seat on the first flight of my August adventure.  I’ll be getting some training for work today and tomorrow then I’m off to a BIG CITY to explore – SOLO!  I’ve never vacationed solo so this will be an adventure.  I’m nervous and excited and terrified of trying to master public transit. 

I’ll be posting when I return, typing out all the notes I collect in my travel journal and maybe even sharing some photos!

Alas, it’s time for take off!  Wish me safe travels! I’m also terrified of flying!  Gah! YOLO! 

These are my good luck charms.  Don’t judge. 

Swearwords as motivation

If you’ve read my blog in the last couple of weeks you may recall this post here:  It’s a Process – try, fail, succeed

In that post I shared a lovely graphic that I made in the hopes of inspiring you to embrace failure.

Well, after asking a representative at Canva if I could use swearwords in a non-defamatory way with their site to make my graphics, I got just the answer I was looking for: yes.

I bring to you, my motivation through swearwords version of that graphic.  This one should not be displayed on cubical walls.  But definitely text it to your bestie if they’re having a hard time at work.  They’ll appreciate it.

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Leadership 1 – because we’re not even in the double digits yet

Becoming a Leader

Ok, so, I had planned to write out a lengthy blog post about how to blossom into the role of LEADER. . .

However, I feel like that’s doing a disservice to you, my 30-something strong readership.  Perhaps you’re already a leader and you got this ish ON LOCK, or you’re a timid newby on the job who wants to know a few tips before diving in, or you may just be reading this because WordPress auto-populated my post in their feed at just the right time.

If ANY of those above apply to you – I am here to help you with your leadership dreams!

I have a super simple “Beginner’s Guide” to leadership that I debated sharing with y’all because, well, I kind of like being successful and enabling all of the internet people out there to ALSO be successful could severely limit the likelihood that MY successfulness  will outshine others’ successfulness.  Alas, I am better than that and have decided to share with the world my top three tips for becoming a leader.  Watch out, Forbes, this here is a tell-all article!

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1.  Do stuff

Yes, it’s that simple.  Do more stuff.  Do all of the stuff.  Volunteer to take on new projects.  Learn new interests on the internet.  Try a new hobby.  Join a soccer club.  Adopt a puppy.  Join Toastmasters.  Travel.

2.  Be the boss of stuff

Remember that stuff you just did?  Now, be the BOSS of it.  Ask to head the project you just volunteered for.  Start a meetup in your area for your new interest.  Teach someone about your new hobby.  Run the next soccer club practice.  Be the boss of that puppy and potty train it.  Join one of the committees of your Toastmasters club.  Create a travel itinerary for you and your friends/SO on the next trip.

3.  Do more stuff

Now you’ve done stuff, taken on the leadership role for all of that stuff, so guess what?  It’s time to do EVEN MORE STUFF!  This doesn’t mean keep up the same ol’, it means expand your horizons even further.  Sure you ran a practice at soccer club, but how about being the coach next season?  And you were the head of that one project at work, but what about another project that’s a little different?  If you started a meetup for your new interest, perhaps create an actual club out of it.  Oh, be sure to KEEP being the boss of the puppy – that’s not a “stuff” you just move on from – that’s a life commitment.  Step up your committee game at Toastmasters and be the VP of something (I’m keen on PR, personally).  Start blogging about your travels so that people outside of your circle can learn from your wisdom.


So there you have it.  My super top secret guide to becoming a leader.  Now don’t go telling everyone or anything.


PS – I create my graphics with Canva.  Remember my last blog post where I mentioned I don’t make them from scratch?  Well, Kate from Canva emailed me (twice!) to ask that I include a link to their site so that you can sign up too.  So, here you go, Kate!

PPS – I get nothing in return for linking to it.  Lest you think I’m a sellout, I am merely one who gives in to pressure easily and hates disappointing people.

PPPS – Those are NOT good qualities for a leader!  Do as I say, not as I do!

It’s a Process – try, fail, succeed

I made up another thing with words that I thought up.

When you repeat the cycle of is sitting on the other side of fear.


That’s all I got for tonight.  I’m trying to write about leadership – which is a lot harder than my stream of consciousness!


PS – I make all of my little “things” via Canva – it’s an awesome website with tons of free stuff to use.  They don’t pay me, I just don’t want y’all thinking I’m some graphic designer.  Plus, if you wanna make “stuff” like this – you totally can now!

Leap then Look, When not to Consider the Consequences


I’ve always had a knack for carelessly jumping head-first into whatever grand idea I thought was The Best Idea Ever at any given time.  I would chalk this up to the poor decision making abilities that come with my bipolar, but this goes way back into childhood.  I broke my arm when I was super young, during preschool years, because I absolutely NEEDED to “couch dance.”  This was dancing not just on the couch cushions where one sits, but also the backrest of the couch which is completely ill-advised for a small child.  I was told not to, I didn’t listen, I had an AMAZING time doing it, until – the THUD of my tiny frame came crashing to the ground behind the couch.  The fun was over.  At least until the cast was off.

I’ve never much thought about my ability (or disability, depending on how you view it) to make decisions with my gut and go for them full steam ahead without much consideration until recently.  Being a new member of Toastmasters, I gave my Icebreaker Speech late last year in which I chronicled my “inventive” and “entrepreneurial” spirit throughout my development into adulthood (I went with the fact that I spell my name Jessie with an “ie”).  One of the members commented afterward that she wished she had approached her life like I did when she was growing up.  I didn’t know what she meant because to me, I kind of seem like a hot mess looking back, but she explained that she appreciates my “why not?” attitude about everything.


Yeah, WHY NOT?

The woman had an excellent point.  I’ve accomplished a lot of random little victories in my life because I’ve looked at most things with that “why not?” outlook.  Opportunities came up and with little thought I embraced them wholeheartedly and let them play out.  There are times in life when caution is advisable and 100% appropriate, but with a lot of the non-essential stuff, stuff that your heart just whispers to you “Hey, this might be kind of neat to try” why would you stop yourself?  Thanks to my whim-following heart I’ve hosted a radio show in college, been involved in roller derby for 9 years, was the social chair of my sorority, told multiple people I thought they were cute/I liked them (I would say it was a 50/50 ROI on that, I’m way better with rejection than I am with “waiting to see if they make the first move”), moved to Denver, acted in sketch comedy skits, and opened multiple Etsy shops.  These were not things that I thought through.  The idea came to me, or just presented itself all up in my face, and I embraced it.  Some of those ventures failed, some happened and were fun, and some changed the course of my life (I guess all did technically).


Leap already!

I’m sure we’ve all seen those articles on our social media feeds that list the “Top 30 Things You Regret not Doing when You’re 70” or whatever, and every single one emphasizes that you wind up regretting the things that you DIDN’T do.  Here is a list of things that I believe you can go ahead and DO, just leap before looking!

Cut your hair, audition for a play, apply for that promotion, SING KARAOKE, ask the cute person across the way to dance, say yes when your friend invites you to try something new, explore that hobby you’ve always been interested in, start saving for that big trip you’ve always wanted to take, just go take that little weekend trip already, try out for the sports team, join an adult recreational sports team, START BLOGGING, raise your hand excitedly the next time you hear “Can I have a volunteer from the audience?”, dance – even if no one else is, go back to school, volunteer your time, write a book, or join a new group a little outside of your comfort zone.




Ok, take a peek over the edge real quick, but then leap!

And now, the things that perhaps you should take some time to consider before acting on (because I definitely have one tattoo that I did NOT look into before leaping).

Adopt a fur child, get a tattoo, change careers, move to a new city/state/country, actually go on that big trip you’ve always wanted to take, pop the “big question”, start a business, or go in to the boss person and ask for that raise at work.


You do You

Most importantly, you do you.  Speak and act your heart’s truth.  The last thing you want is to go through life regretting chances you didn’t take or the bad choices you did make.  If your gut says “LEAP!  NOW!”, maybe tell your best friend first and see if they offer a parachute or downright refuse to let you get in the airplane – then weigh their input and act accordingly.  Life is way too short to wonder “What if?”